Emotional Incest and the Narcissist Grandparent

Free From Codependency With Dr. Nicholas Jenner

Some years ago, I wrote about the concept of the golden child in a family. Succinctly put, this is a child who is asked to maintain the self esteem of a narcissist parent by being everything that he or she was not, being the child that is put forward in the community as special. The downside of this is that the parent is the one who takes any success that the child has and the child is conditioned to put the needs of the parent before their own. In effect, everything they do is to make the parent look good or to make them happy. In extreme cases, the child is subjected to an emotional caretaking role and is often involved in conversations and discussions about the parent’s life that no child should be involved in. It obligates the child to be codependent with the parent and the parent sucks…

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Anna’s Raising Money for Cystic Fibrosis Research

Journey Forward

Anna, my 24 year old daughter, wants to get as many people as possible to help her raise money for Cystic Fibrosis research. The Cystic Fibrosis Foundation is one of the most fiscally responsible non-profits, ensuring that nearly .90 from every dollar raised goes to support research and programs for Cystic Fibrosis. To raise money, Anna is leading a team for the Denver Climb, a grueling stair climbing race held at Invesco Field/Mile High Stadium on June 25. If you want to join her team or support her team members click here

She is also selling her “I Love a Lemon” t-shirts with all proceeds going to the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation. Click here if you want to buy a t-shirt but hurry because sales close at 11:59p this Friday June 13…sorry for the short notice!

The phrase “I love a lemon” came about after Anna was diagnosed with PTLD, a form…

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When Stress becomes Burnout

Dr. Nicholas Jenner PsyD, MA

Burnout is a problem that many people either face or come very close to facing at some point in their life or career and the numbers are rising. According to the American Psychological Association : three-quarters of Americans experience symptoms related to stress in a given month: – 77% experience physical symptoms – 73% experience psychological symptoms. In Germany, a recent study by the government revealed that 5% of all adults between the ages of 25 and 45 are officially suffering from burnout. They cited common symptoms such as: depleted physical energy, emotional exhaustion, increasing absenteeism at work, less investment in personal relationships, increasingly pessimistic view of the world and lowered immunity to illness.

If your job or some other commitment keeps you completely drained physically or emotionally, and if this situation goes on for an extended period of time, you may finally reach breaking point and fall victim to Burnout Syndrome. Burnout is…

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PTSD: The Dramatic Effects

Dr. Nicholas Jenner PsyD, MA

Post traumatic stress disorder or PTSD is one of the most misunderstood and misdiagnosed psychological conditions that exist. Often disregarded by the medical profession, treated with suspicion by health care and sometimes not even recognized by the sufferers themselves, it justifies the title given to it by David Kinchin as the “Invisible Injury”. It is, in fact far more widespread than many people think. One medical website claims: “PTSD drives more people to seek mental health treatment than any other psychiatric illness today. Yet it has been recognized as a diagnostic category since only 1980”

The official definition of PSTD is: “Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD, is an anxiety disorder that can develop after exposure to a terrifying event or ordeal in which grave physical harm occurred or was threatened. Traumatic events that may trigger PTSD include violent personal assaults, natural or human-caused disasters, accidents, or military combat. “(National institute of…

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Procrastination and Depression often go hand in hand

Dr. Nicholas Jenner PsyD, MA

Procrastination can be defined as that invisible wall in front of you, stopping you moving on and using effective methods for beating depressive thinking. Incredibly, in 2010, the APA, in its annual Stress in America report, failed to identify procrastination as a major factor in why people do not follow through on programmes designed to beat stress and pressure. This is even more incredible when survey participants recognised a lack of willpower in healthy lifestyle changes. Most said that this willpower was diminished due to lack of energy and confidence and once one was increased, the other increased too. I think you can see the pattern. In this post, I would like to show that depression and procrastination go hand in hand and need to be tackled simultaneously.

What is procrastination ? Business people define procrastination as the delaying of deadlines. However, a more serious form is the putting off of personally relevant activities for change…

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